The light slowly starts to dawn on poor Ian. Curse those naysayers. They said, "Nay, you're incompatible, you're different. Ian's a sophisticate, an intellectual man of action, and Toby's a spoiled rotten debutante. Nay, nay, nay. Ian is a popular professor, and Toby spends her days making clay animals and painting clowns. Ian works hard for a living every day, while Toby lounges poolside with the retirees." Maybe it is time to start listening to those naysayers, Ian.